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Mike Tate's avatar

I have fairly good sexual confidence but my partner, who I've been with over 26 years seems to have lost his. Almost a complete turnaround from what it was in our early years.

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Kevin Martin, MS, CHC, CPT's avatar

Thank you for sharing, Mike. It's certainly difficult when there's a shift and change, especially over time. I'm curious as to how conversations with your partner have gone about sexual confidence. Perhaps there can be opportunities to explore with him, from a non-judgmental space, why he feels his sexual confidence might have shifted over time and to explore what support he might be finding to be helpful for cultivating that energy once again.

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Mike Tate's avatar

Thanks for the feedback. Probably don't have to tell you that for us to have stayed together as long as we have has been because of pretty good communication. When it comes to the subject of sex, his defense systems automatically kick in and he basically turns his head and avoids the subject like it's nothing. FYI two more weeks will be 27 years for us.

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Ricky V's avatar

Ooof! You and the fucking mirror, literally my worst nightmare. Hopefully I’ll get there one day. It’s insane how we make leaps and bounds in some areas, and can be so fearful in others. Loved the piece, my friend. Is inspirational and aspirational. You always fucking nail it.

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Kevin Martin, MS, CHC, CPT's avatar

You definitely will get there one day. Step by step!

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